Warning: Contains references to unattractive bodily functions.
Where do we draw the lines at privacy and not fall on the side of oversharing?
Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and even Blogging are just one of the many platforms available for us to share our world and our thoughts. Oh look! I woke up 2.9 seconds before my usual time – MUST INFORM THE WORLD! Or yay! I am having beer/whiskey/wine/water – MUST PUT IT UP WITH A COOL CAPTION! Insignificant, irrelevant and involving absolutely no one else, there is a serious epidemic of narcissism out there.
Flip side now. In private conversations, how comfortable are we talking about morbid topics or where does the line on morbidity is drawn for each one of us? For example, I am totally cool with (and in fact even enjoy) conversations involving poop. Probably because I love to show off my super awesome body clock and timing of bowel movements (all done and dusted within ten minutes of waking up). A bunch of friends and I were comparing notes on how long we take to do our business. And a couple of us shared our mutual joy at the satisfaction drawn when in a matter of seconds, our bowels cleanse themselves. With another group, we drew grimaces with the standard lines of “Gross” “Yuck” yada yada.

All comes down to the line.
But c’mon! If we are with friends and you accidentally release gas from your rear end, would you squirm uncomfortably or just laugh it off and move on with your life. Is the line drawn the same for all the people or differs based on your relationships? Or if after a long night with your new born who refuses to stop throwing up, would you confide in the stranger sitting next to you on the subway that you were too knackered to change out of your soiled sweatpants? (Actually, I wouldn’t mind doing that just to see the reaction of that person!! 😀 *makes mental note*)
I can understand that when it comes to more serious issues, most of us have set our limits. But for small things, why is there that discomfort? Why do I need to request a female stranger for an extra tampon when my best friend who is incidentally a guy is right there to go and pick it up for me? In such cases, I guess it is not just the personal block but more like a societal norm. But that is so stifling! These so -called morbid issues can work as a real ice-breaker… set the ball rolling at times. And even serious issues – I think most of us have a story to share where strangers have been kind to us in those moments of deep grievous trouble as well.
On one hand, social media has made us virtually naked. On the other hand, in reality there are still major bumps with minor things labelled “TMI” (I hate these acronyms – TMI, FYI, BTW). I cannot think of a cool ending for this post, so okay. And they lived happily ever after.
It is Saturday and Linda over at Stream of Consciousness Saturday is making us talk on “information” or whatever that may lead to 🙂 Take a look!
Talk to me about limits and definition of “Too Much Information”…. Where/When do you draw the line? Feel free 🙂 No squirming here!
The social media sharing is way too pseudo, it only manages to portray less than half of one’s personality.
Great Post here! 😀 enjoyed the read.
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Thank you Preeti 🙂 Social media is multi-pseudo!
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I don’t know why we feel at ease confiding in strangers, but can’t do so with the ones closest to us. I guess I have been guilty of the same, before. Great thoughts, here. 🙂
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No patterns there actually. But you are right, at times it feels very easy with strangers!
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I guess maybe, it’s because we know they won’t be there to witness the repercussions or that they probably couldn’t care less to be a judge of our actions.
All the same, happy blogging! 🙂
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Totally agree with you on this BTW 😉 Lol
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Ha ha 🙂 Thank you for dropping in!
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I don’t really have a TMI line. I guess if the person talking to me wants to share, it’s important to be a good listener.
I can recall few occasions where I winced, and those would be times when I wish it hadn’t been my parents talking lol.
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LOL!! I guess parents is where the line comes too in certain cases – and it goes both ways, listening and sharing 🙂
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Agreed!
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great post praj, I agree with you about social media……though I don’t know many people who discuss their bowel movements, maybe I move in the wrong circles….
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They sure help in easing tensions at times 🙂 Maybe you can try that once! Thank you Michael..
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I am a big time Whatsapp addict, thanks to all the group of friends there. We have the best time there as I can’t meet them in person. But then that’s not sharing to the world hence can be pardoned 😀
Bowel movements is something that I have never discussed with my friends. I could but why would I? There is not much happiness in discussing that I guess but then I am not judging anyone here 😉
This was a fun post by you. Good read!!
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Happiness is totally subjective 🙂 For some it is your bowel movements, for some it is Big Boss and for some it is Narendra Modi! As long as it is you being you! Thanks Anoop 🙂
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😀 Nicely put. 😛
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I think it has a lot to do with how conservative vs liberal minded a person is, as science shows that’s a natural attribute that even determines political party association. And in general how introverted or extroverted a person is. The nice thing about the Internet is there is an off button for the introverts and more conservative thinking folks.
I am super extroverted and am free enough in expression to be literally the only person out of several hundred thousand people who dances solo everywhere they go, in my extremely conservative leaning metro area, actually rated as the worst place in the U.S. to be ‘different’. But I used to be terrified to walk alone in Super-Walmart.
The wild side is much more fun. But again, I understand the other side, and when obviously conservative shy folks walk toward me, I slow the ballet and martial arts style down to TAI CHI stye or a slow walk out of respect; and I don’t wanna scare the hell of out of ’em.
But I’m nice like that too, smiles..:)
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You raise a good point here… There is something for everyone out here in the internet. No peer pressures as such, although social media has invented a whole new category of such pressure. It is all in our hands 🙂
And yes! You are nice 😀
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I do agree social media has a flip side…sometimes conversations involving poop and farting can be disgusting but you can’t stop laughing when you’re with friends…oops! Did I give Too Much Information? 😛
Super fun read. 🙂
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It is in our hands to make it deliberately disgusting or naturally fun I believe 🙂 Also depends on the people involved! Very important 😀 Thanks Amrit! Glad you enjoyed
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Your regular bowel movements could have a healthy, helpful side. I wonder if you’re so regular because you eat a lot of fiber. On the lighter side, all gas in my house is blamed on which ever dog happens to be closest.
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A lot of fibre – true! I make it a point to include and Indian diets naturally include a lot of fibre.
I want to know more about those dogs 🙂
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Well, I really like that you broke out of your norm (verse) with this post, but……I think it’s TMI (sorry) for me…..I’m way too introverted for discussions about this stuff….
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Ha ha 😀 I actually love working on write-ups – just went mad on poetry for the challenge!
And it is totally cool it was TMI for you 🙂 The lines are different for each one of us as they should be!
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I love the ending 🙂
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Thank you Dan 🙂
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What all things people are discussing these days?! 😉 Btw fyi it was a good read 😉
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It’d make your ears smoke 😉 Thank you!
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hahaa.. I am sure 😛
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It was perfect ! And with a cool ending too 😛
Though I think that as much irritating as the social media could be, it is slowly removing those bumps of patriarchy. Though, undoubtedly a lot has to be done yet, the courage to express has come a long way with the birth of social media. What do you think?
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We all need our happily ever afters don’t we 😉
You raise a good point here – social media has empowered us, but I hope we aren’t losing our accountability either.
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Great post,Prajakta! I have a high threshold for ….oh, we aren’t talking about that… anyway, no TMI filters here… people can tell me whatever pops into their heads… I am usually a bit more reserved about spouting things off, but I am a good listener and usually let people ramble on about whatever 🙂 Enjoy your Sunday!
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It starts off like that for me 🙂 I start off as a good listener and then warm up to share. Have a great week ahead!
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being a good listener is a great quality 🙂 I am glad you are able to open up after a while… I tend to stay aloof too much.. enjoy your week as well!
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Hahah..i really enjoyed reading this post. Definitely not TMI (took me a while to figure out that one! Wayyy too many abbreviations these days!). Ive discussed bowel movements, periods and cramps, and a lot of other things with friends (guys and girls) without much thought. This is probably because I am really comfortable with said people. I may not have a similar conversation, say, with random guy/girl from work, for sure. Reading this reminded me of this particular meme I came across, which said something along the lines of “Good friends discuss their sex lives. Best friends talk about poop” 😀
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Comfort levels go a long way in drawing our lines with people. And some people just have that vibe right that just invite you in with the warm of a cup of hot chocolate right?
And the meme was right on 😉
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You know how to talk shit, Prajakta! I had to say it. 😉
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Ha ha 😀 I am glad!
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When I saw the “warning”, I was not sure what to expect Prajakta, but it was an excellent post, with a lot of truth and insight.
Thanks for sharing! 🙂
~Carl~
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Thank you Carl 🙂 I am glad you liked it
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haha.. well written Prajakta.. did u just slip in a profound message amid the laughs or is it just me 😛 And, well, wait! if you don’t really think a lot, or think at all, and just talk. it’s fun (has serious downsides.. u can trust me on this 😛 ) but it’s good… (if u luckily don’t come across..”did u just say that.. u r so dead” dialogues 😀 )
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I am not sure what I was trying to communicate either 😛 It made perfect sense in my head though! Thanks for dropping in 🙂
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hey, just dropped by to let you know that i nominated you for the 3 day quote challenge
check it out: http://wp.me/p5ENoI-26
CHEERS 😀
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Thank you 🙂 I will be happy to participate!
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I’m glad 😀
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I think if we share the right thing we can steer other person’s perception of us…
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Which works wonderfully at times 🙂
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Great post on TMI 😀 I guess its kind of trending in WP as I am reading this a lot 😉 and its good to spread awareness that TMi can infact lead to many dangerous side effects also 😀
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Thanks Darshith 🙂 Glad you liked my two cents on it.
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Heylooo, I gave you Starlight Blogger Award at :
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